We all have our problem weather its money, kids, relationships or work. I have my share of problems like the rest of you, don’t worry I’m not about to list them! A while ago I noticed how negative I had become, it’s very east to fall into the trap of wallowing in your problems. I have been trying a few things to get myself out of this cycle. Just to be clear I’m not talking about depression, I know that is a whole different kettle of fish to just felling a bit down, I am lucky enough not to have suffered that but my heart goes out to those of you who do.
The first way of dealing with it is really no longer any good for me. Religion can be a great comfort and used to be for me. But I can no longer fool myself there is god but somedays I wish I could. Life was a lot easier when you can rely on your invisible friend to sort it all out.
Putting things in perspective; one of my steps son’s favorite sayings is ‘first world problem.’ He has a point, we have a place to live and don’t worry about affording food and clothes. I can walk about my home town without fear of being shoot, bombed or drafted into fighting. This already puts us in an exclusive group. I think some of us need to remember this more when we are moaning about the price of cocktails!
Forcing yourself to think positively. This one sounds very corny but does work for me. When I wake up instead of focusing on something I’m dreading, I try to think out about something good about the day. It might just be a chance to do some writing or what I’m having for dinner. It could be I’m getting closer to a really good thing, like two days before I can go out for a drink.
Living for the moment; I’ve read this is a great way to be positive but never manage it myself I can’t stopping myself worrying about things that have happened or might. The few times I find myself doing this by accident is usually when I am at my happiest.
Worrying about that other people think, I don’t mean your nearest and dearest, if you don’t worry what they think then you’re probably a sociopath or a teenager. I have got better at this over the years but still waste to much energy worry about what people I don’t even like think about me. Writing has helped a bit with this although I like it when people enjoy what my random wintering’s or say nice things about my book I essentially write it for my own enjoyment. So as I said in the title don’t let negative people drag you down!
What are your top tips for staying positive?
Sometimes it can be really tough to paint on a smile and get through the day. I also take the time to remind myself of how fortunate I am and to focus on the positive. But if that fails, I employ the ‘fake it til you feel it’ method and quite often, after a few hours of pretending to be cheerful, I actually feel a lot better. Chin up, chap!
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Faking sounds like a great plan, I should have also added distraction. I hope the article didn’t make me sound too miserable, on the whole I’m quiet happy.
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Nah not at all. We all have our grumpy days and it’s always nice to be reminded there’s someone else out there, all pissed off, also 😉
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Yep misery likes company. Don’t you just hate clichés!
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Try to smile. I hear that the action of smiling can bring calm and happy feelings… 😆
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That makes a lot of sense. I hope I don’t sound miserable all the time, I’m not, I’m usally quiet happy.
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Yep…smiling inside and out screws up negativity
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I will try to smile more
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I always say to myself “Live this day as if it were your last.” I also smile and say “good morning” to people. Smiling is infectious (with most people). Some people choose to say nothing or ignore me and my smile, but that’s their problem.
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Oh no you’re one of those people! Sorry Hugh but when I take power you had better flee the country, you have been entered on my list. Random smiling will be outlawed.
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Oh dear. Smiling always makes me feel so positive and cheers me up. I’ve been told that I have a wonderful smile, so I’m keeping it. 😄
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You are safe for now so you can carry on smiling
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I hate to admit it, I tried this tonight and it does work people smiled back at me and it gave me a buzz.
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lol. I hope that means you’re no longer thinking of banning it when you become Prime Minster?
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I will allow it, however I’m thinking of using the title emperor rather than prime minister when the time comes.
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I try not to get overwhelmed. Instead of letting one massive problem bring me down, I break it up into more manageable sections. I also try to “reward” myself once I complete each section as a means of positive reinforcement and motivation.
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Thanks all those sound like great ideas.
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