Don’t worry this isn’t one of my self-indulgent pity pieces. This is an idea I have been reading and thinking about for quite some time. As a child of the eighties I was indoctrinated by the need to succeed, you must be successful. You must own your own home, reach the top of your profession, foreign holidays, investment and a large pension. Only then will you be successful and happy.
Now I’m a bit older I see how wrong this is. I’m not saying if you have achieved this you have made a mistake. If it makes you happy then well done. Most us don’t achieve this but make ourselves unhappy trying to get there. One of my favourite comedians Jeremy Hardy once said on a panel show ‘who do you know who is really good at their job?’ He went on to say most of just get through by just pretending and hoping we don’t get discovered.
I can relate to this for the first few years of qualifying I lived in fear of an official turning up and telling me it was all a mistake and I didn’t really pass. Like many, I have a job where the workload is impossible to stay on top of despite working way over my contracted hours so I survive by cutting corners. I have given up the idea of rising above class teacher and wanting to do was silly. I’m happiest teaching and hate paper work whereas to get promoted I would do less teaching and more paper work. Despite knowing this I still get the odd pang that I’m not succeeding.
My brother has it much more sorted he opted out years ago although he doesn’t have a flushing toilet so I’m not sure I’m going to go that far.
So who is with me and will embrace mediocrity and happiness?
Chasing after other people’s idea of success can drive any simply person crazy and unhappy. I tossed away all those silly notions and carving my own way to my own definition of success 😉
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I think it’s a much surer way to happiness to set your own goals ant worry what others say or think.
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So much more paperwork than when I was young
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It’s beyond ridiculous nowadays. So much of is never actually read by anyone.
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Yes
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I have tried very hard to make sure my kids don’t measure “success” either monetarily or positionally. Loving what you do and enjoying the ppl around you is so much more important.
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Yes I wish I had listen to that rather than the must have money one when I was younger.
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I adjusted my idea of success several years ago. Rather than titles on my resume, I simply want to be free to live and work on my own terms. Though, being able to afford the extravagant holiday now and then would be nice.
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Lets not forget to odd bottle of champagne. Harry Potter merchandise doesn’t come cheap!
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Making some similar life changes myself. The hustle of achieving more can certainly leave us worn. In the end do we really get to enjoy what we’ve worked so hard to accomplish? Many don’t.
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We often spend to much time at work to enjoy the material rewards we get from working too much.
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Yeah, when we can’t enjoy what we work for then what’s the point.
Thanks for reading. Hope you’re having a great day! ☺ 🌷
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lol – I can so relate. Your teaching may make a difference in someone’s life. That paperwork? Never. 😀
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I hope so. Thanks for the comment.
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🙂
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I can definitely relate with the feeling of never being good enough. It’s something that helps motivate me, but needs to be ignored at times too.
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Thanks for the comment, sorry it’s taken so long to reply, the reason why will be in Mondays post.
I think we are all most programmed to think that way. On kids work at school I have to put the next step, sometime I just want to put, that was really good keep it up.
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